We grow up thinking that the worst thing that can happen is for us to break. That after failing at something we wanted more than anything or losing the person we wanted to be with more than anything, we should never show we’re hurting. That no matter how bad we are struggling, oh, we should never show it. You feel lost? Find yourself. You feel broken? Fix yourself.
No one wants to go through anything that leaves them destroyed, but at one point in time, the majority of us do. Even though we try to prevent it from happening or avoid acknowledging it, it happens. Whether we like it or not. Because we are so determined to resist breaking, we fail to see the beauty in it.
The beauty in being utterly broken.
See, when you’re in a million pieces, you get to glue every little part of yourself back together. You have control, complete control. You have the opportunity to rebuild yourself. And I know what you’re already thinking, you can’t glue yourself back together to be exactly how you were before. Everything won’t fit the same, little chips will be missing.
But that, THAT right there, is the whole point.
You don’t have to stay the same person. You can dive into who you were and learn from it to become who you want to be. You can grow. To challenge everything you have ever known, ever believed. There isn’t a better fresh start.
So next time you feel directionless, don’t look at it as being lost. The fact that you don’t have an exact plan means you have the freedom to explore. Next time you feel hurt, don’t look at it as being broken. The fact that you are wounded only means mending is on the way.
So celebrate heartbreak, failure, and loss. Oh, what beautiful things those are. Oh, what a beautiful person they give you the chance to become.