Here it is, my Valentine’s Day article. I mean, you had to see it coming. Every article of mine, in some way or another, is about self-growth and self-love. So, what type of self-care column would I be if I didn’t use the “day of love” to remind you of the importance of loving yourself? A pretty bad one, huh. Well, good thing I’m writing this article then.
The majority of people describe Valentine’s Day as a day to appreciate your significant other. A day to shower your crush, boyfriend, or girlfriend with gifts and surprises. And it makes sense why we think that. We see Valentine’s day commercials of little boys bringing their crush chocolates. We watch shows where on February 14th, the girlfriend becomes the fiancé. We have been pushed to believe that Valentine’s day revolves around big gestures for the people we love. But if we shift that perspective, even just a little, everything changes.
Yes, I agree Valentine’s day is about nurturing and appreciating the relationships in our lives. But we often forget about one of the most important relationships we will ever have: the relationship with ourselves.
And to any of you who think I’m crazy, I’m not. I mean, I think that’s what all crazy people say, but really hear me out.
We all are in a relationship with ourselves. We are constantly talking to ourselves and spending time with ourselves. I mean, let’s look at a few qualities you should show to a significant other: trust, respect, communication, support, encouragement, love, honesty, and commitment. What do all these qualities have in common? They are equally as important in the relationship with ourselves. You should respect your values, boundaries, and morals, encourage yourself when you feel sad or scared, be honest about your strengths and weaknesses, commit to your goals and desires, and love yourself regardless of past choices or recent mistakes.
So yes, whether or not you have a significant other, you are in a committed relationship. And this is the type of relationship you will never stop working on because it’s the only one you can’t walk away from.
So February 14th, 2021, we should all spend a good chunk of Valentine’s Day to show love to ourselves. Even if you do have plans with a significant other, I beg you to spend some time alone first. Taking time to appreciate yourself is such an important value that few people do.
I sent a survey to our school to see how our student body views spending Valentine’s Day single. Although 92% agree that you do not have to be “taken” to celebrate Valentine’s Day, only about half of the respondents actually celebrate the day with themselves. This result probably has to do with the fact that when they had to choose how they view being single on Valentine’s Day, the top three answers were neutral, lonely, and content. Being single on Valentine’s Day is seen as a disappointment when it doesn’t have to be. You don’t need to wait on some guy or girl to buy you those roses or take you out to your favorite restaurant. Get dressed up for yourself, bake your favorite dessert for yourself, go to your favorite spot with yourself.
Your beautiful body that lets you move, your powerful mind that lets you think, and your deep heart that lets you feel, deserves to be loved by you before anyone else.