The majority of us live the stressful events in our lives twice. We keep ourselves up all night and distract ourselves all day, thinking about what could, should, and might happen. We put ourselves through the motions, the stress, the worry, the anxiety long before we even need to. And when the event actually happens, we now have to feel all of that all over again.
So I have a question. Why do some of us choose to put ourselves through it twice? And I’m not talking about those who deal with diagnoses that make the issue bigger than themselves. I’m calling out those of us who choose to drown in the thoughts. The ones who voluntarily think themselves into states of panic and unease when they have absolutely no clue what’s gonna happen.
Well, guess what, the future doesn’t exist. Trippy, right? But it’s true.
The future is something we make up in our heads based on how we expect situations to turn out. But the thing is, no matter how big of a hunch you have, no matter how strongly you feel, there is no way of knowing. So why do we ruin the time we can control, the now, the present, worrying about what we can’t control?
Stop choosing to put yourself through it twice. Stop draining yourself by trying to predict the unpredictable. Let go of all the guesses and false realities. Let later happen later.