Stop Letting Your Thoughts Be Your Biggest Enemy

Stop Letting Your Thoughts Be Your Biggest Enemy

You can talk yourself into

it just as easily as you’ve been

talking yourself out of it


A lot of the time, our biggest enemy is ourselves. We convince ourselves that people will gossip or laugh when we do or say the things we want. But here’s the thing, the majority of people don’t care.

They really don’t.

Just as you are sitting down and worrying about your hair or your outfit, everyone else is doing the same about themselves. People are too busy worrying about themselves to focus on you. So when you convince yourself people are staring at you or people are talking about you, I want you to stop and ask yourself one question:

Who told me that?

Who told you your hair looks off? Who told you that pimple is too big? Who told you that your outfit fits you weird? That is when you’ll realize no one said those things. That YOU made them up and, guess what, they are completely false.

People are not paying as much attention to you as you think. And although that may seem like an insult, it’s the best compliment. It means if you let yourself, you can do the things that make you smile. You can do the things you want to do. The majority of the time, the only person betting against you is yourself, you and that little mind of yours. So if you’re going to tell yourself things, make them positive and encouraging. Assume your hairstyle looks amazing, assume the pimple isn’t noticeable, assume your outfit frames you perfectly. Use that crazy brain of yours to lift yourself up instead of tearing yourself down.

Alyssa Mullings
Alyssa Mullings

Alyssa Mullings is a senior at the Medical Academy for Science and Technology at Homestead. Her love for writing developed as she took AP Seminar and AP Language and Composition. She is a full-time writer for The Caduceus Times, the school’s newspaper, where she focuses on feature articles and personal columns. When she’s not writing, you can find her reading self-improvement books or spending time with her family.